I’ve never had problems in making friends. While I hated leaving the friends I made in Delaware/Pennsylvania, the worry that plagues many people, “Will I make new friends in my new location?” never occurred to me. I realized that before I moved to that area, I didn’t know my good friends–Judy, Esther, Pat and Joyce. I was confident I would find new friends who would also become special. As it turned out, I have made more friends here in NC in 3 years than I did in the 7 years in my previous home.
I consider my friends my chosen family. I talk with them when I need support during a crisis, when I need advice and just want to “touch base.” Why then, do I also need a coach? Given that I AM a coach myself–it got me thinking about why I/we need both a coach AND a sprinkling of wonderful friends. Here’s what I came up with…
Objectivity — My coach helps me look at the situation, goal, dream or problem without imposing her values or how she handled a similar situation. It’s about what works best for me that counts.
Push/Kick — My coach knows when I am stalling, trying to weasel out of something or wanting to stay in my velvet rut where it’s nice and comfy. She is not afraid to use whatever it takes to get me to my goal. She does not hesitate to use some special techniques to get me there–with love, of course.
Accountability — My coach isn’t a soft touch that will give me a “Get out of xxx free” card whenever I don’t make my commitments. See above paragraph!
It’s all about me — It’s my time. I don’t have to wait for the polite friendship volley where we each take turns to share our opinions and stories. My coach is working toward my agenda and my agenda only.
Resources, options and new ideas — Because my coach truly understands where I’ve been and where I want to go–she always seems to have a lot of ideas I can use for my own situation.
Celebrate — Sure, I use my friends to share successes with. But it is my coach who celebrates each little bitty step that got me there. She “gets” the effort it took and makes sure I take time to acknowledge my progress.
The good news is that I don’t have to choose between my friends and my coach. They are all an important part of my life. So, what do you think? If you have a coach, how do you utilize him/her versus your family of friends?
I recently had a lot of reminders of how important accountability can be in achieving our success. Whenever I think about accountability, I think–report card, performance reviews and feelings of being judged quickly pop up. Accountability = something to be avoided!
One of the joys of having my own business is that I am my own boss. I no longer have anyone to report to. But now I truly get the importance of this thing called measurement. I consider myself a very determined person. I set goals for myself and have a regular To Do List. But I can’t honestly say I know where my time goes. How much time am I wasting? Am I doing the right things?
One of my goals is to complete my book in 2010. I decided to align myself with my friend, Yvonne, who lives in another state. Yvonne is also a writer and we made a commitment to get up early each morning and write on our projects. There are many times that the only thing that gets me up early is knowing that she is waiting for my morning email–“Hey, I’m up!” I’m convinced I have made much more progress having an accountability buddy than I would by myself.
I have started working with a new coach, Michelle Pippin. She has turned me on to the importance of being accountable. In one of her blogs, she made the statement of how we are good “at our word” towards other people; but we don’t honor ourselves that way. Wow, that was powerful. I remember times that if I said I would attend a meeting, boy, I would make sure I would be there. But I agree with her–I often slack off on the commitments I make to myself.
As you might know, I have become a leader with WaggleForce, a national network of local career clubs. There are many reasons that job seekers could benefit from joining a career club. One of the important ones is being accountable to each other for our commitments and progress. Accountability works!
So, what about you? Are you ready to make a commitment to yourself for an important goal this year? What experiences have you had with being accountable to someone? I’ve love to hear about your stories!